When missing someone, the most logical and likely-to-be-successful avenue by which to appease that feeling is to get in contact with said person. When this communication would doubtless be damaging to one’s emotional health (but staying out of touch is also very unpleasant), which solution is really considered “coping”?
I might have severe attachment issues. Coping mechanism simply do not operate on an adult level of refine maturity, it is as though in my own mind, I can’t get past age sixteen.
I trudge along the route of melancholy and dare myself to get in contact with her again.
Of course it didn’t work.
All I got is silence, since 11 months ago.
I knew it from someone else that her dad was treated for cancer and she start to visit the specialist for her spinal therapy again — a recurring sickness, that almost never exist when I’m still with her.
In the distant, I’m worried of her.
Those short electronic message of wishes is cathartic — at least to me.
I wish her and her family the best of health.
Alles Gute zum Geburtstag, Sue.
Neither would be a “coping” solution. Yet every avenues make us human. The zeitgeist might not be the best of je ne sais quoi but it’s better than being blasé.